We were young, in love, married, bought a house and PREGNANT!
So very excited to start our life, to start our FAMILY we had always talked about. We went to the 20-week ultrasound to learn about our new baby. We were going to find out the baby’s gender if we could, but didn’t care one way or the other. All we cared about?
“Please let our tiny baby be healthy.”
3 pregnancies, 3 ultrasounds, 3 healthy children. We were blessed!
But then our life deviated from the path we had thought we were on. Our ship in “typical” waters sailed to a new territory, and we were taken to a different world where we didn’t know what was happening or what to do.
At times, it felt like a desolate island.
We became special needs parents.
I write all the time about becoming a special needs mom. About learning about autism, my children, their obstacles and how we work together to spread awareness and understanding.
But I am not driving this ship alone. There is a special needs dad.
Here is what a GREAT special needs dad looks like in this house.
I had to leave the work force and brought my kids home from daycare. My husband carries the burden to financially support our family. That is a huge responsibility.
Never concerned what others think, the focus is always on the right spot. What does my family need? What do my kids need? That is what I need to do. That is where I need to be.
When I feel like I have failed. When I have yelled or cried instead of standing strong, my husband will say, “It’s okay. I have been there before, too. We are doing the best we can.”
One Phone Call Away
I get all the teacher notes, the calls, go to all the appointments. I am first hand “in the know.” I know my husband wants to be there. He wants to know what is happening first hand, but has to work. I know he is always one phone call away.
When you see your child do something you weren’t sure they would ever be able to do – something you took for granted before – you celebrate. We share those moments and successes together.
A Reality – Checker
Things aren’t good or bad. They are just different
Always one to bring a smile to everyone’s faces
Until his kids can stand up for themselves, he will be there to protect against the bullies and negative people. He is a wall that stops bad words from hurting different kids.
He will always be there with you when you need him. He will always let you know, “you can do it!”
The good and/or bad moments create such enormous feelings that we share. Sitting with a child that has screamed for hours can break you down. Hearing your child say “yes” for the first time when he is about to turn 4 can bring you joy you will never know. “These are moments you can never explain to others.”
Everyone just better lookout when Declan starts using the potty! This house is going to explode with joy!
He is a parent of children with autism. He learns about the disorder and ways to help his children gain acceptance.
These are the traits that make on awesome dad to all his kids.